Perinatal Depression Help: Support for Pregnant and Postpartum Women
- rosie6513
- May 26
- 10 min read

Immediate Resources for Those Seeking Urgent Help
If you're seeking immediate perinatal depression help, here are resources available right now:
Crisis Support: Call 116 123 (Samaritans UK)
Professional Help: Contact your GP, midwife, or health visitor for a referral
Local NHS Support: Kent and Medway Perinatal Mental Health Services
Self-Assessment: Consider taking the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS)
At Know Your Mind Consulting, we understand that perinatal depression is more than just the "baby blues"—it’s a serious, yet treatable, mental health condition that impacts about 1 in 7 women during pregnancy or in the first year postpartum. No matter your background or mental health history, support and recovery are possible.
Understanding Perinatal Mental Illness
Perinatal depression spans from conception through the first year postpartum and includes both prenatal depression (during pregnancy) and postpartum depression (after birth). This important period brings significant physical, hormonal, and lifestyle changes that can affect mental health in various ways for pregnant and postpartum women.
The dramatic hormonal changes after giving birth—when estrogen and progesterone levels experience a rapid drop within days—create biological vulnerability. Combined with sleep deprivation, new responsibilities, and societal pressure to feel nothing but joy, it's understandable why many women struggle with postpartum depression and other mental health conditions during this time.
At Know Your Mind Consulting in Tunbridge Wells, our team of clinical psychologists specialises in providing perinatal depression help and support for parents through these challenges. With extensive experience in treating mental disorders related to pregnancy and childbirth, we provide evidence-based talk therapy tailored to your unique needs during this transformative life stage.
Baby Blues vs Postpartum Depression: Understanding the Difference
Many new mothers experience the "baby blues"—brief periods of tearfulness, mood swings, and feeling overwhelmed in the first two weeks after birth, often referred to as postpartum baby blues. This is normal and typically resolves without intervention. Clinical depression is different, and understanding this distinction is crucial for getting appropriate perinatal depression help.
Baby Blues | Perinatal Depression |
Affects 50-75% of new mothers | Affects 15-20% of postpartum women |
Begins within days of delivery | Can begin during pregnancy or anytime in the first year postpartum |
Lasts up to two weeks | Persists beyond two weeks |
Mild mood swings, tearfulness | Severe depression with symptoms that interfere with daily tasks |
Resolves on its own | Requires proper treatment |
No thoughts of self-harm | May include thoughts of harming self or baby |
The two-week marker serves as an important guideline. Feeling emotional during those first couple of weeks when everything is new—that's completely normal. But when those feelings persist beyond two weeks or become so intense they interfere with caring for yourself or bonding with your baby, that's when professional perinatal depression help becomes essential.
Recognising When You Need Support
Your experience of perinatal depression may not look exactly like someone else's. Some parents feel overwhelming sadness or extreme sadness, while others primarily experience anxiety or emotional numbness. Symptoms of perinatal depression might include:
Emotional Changes
Persistent sadness or emptiness
Severe anxiety or panic attacks
Overwhelming guilt or shame
Difficulty feeling connected to your baby
Many women experience feeling "nothing" when they expected to feel everything
Physical Symptoms
Changes in appetite
Sleep problems beyond normal baby-related disruptions
Fatigue that rest doesn't improve
Physical aches and pains without medical cause
Cognitive Difficulties
Trouble concentrating
Indecisiveness
Feeling like your thoughts are moving too quickly or too slowly
Intrusive thoughts about harm coming to the baby
Warning Signs Requiring Immediate Treatment
Thoughts of death or suicide
Hallucinations (seeing or hearing things others don't)
Delusions (fixed false beliefs)
Disorganised thinking
Compelling thoughts of harming your baby
These more severe symptoms could indicate postpartum psychosis, a rare but serious condition affecting 1-2 in 1,000 new mothers that requires immediate medical intervention.
Experiencing these symptoms doesn't reflect on your character or your capacity to be a loving parent. They're signs of a mental illness that responds well to treatment—and you deserve that treatment as much as you would for any other health condition.
Support for Partners and Non-Birthing Parents
Perinatal mental health problems aren't exclusive to birthing parents. Approximately 1 in 10 new fathers develop depression in the first year after childbirth. Their symptoms often present differently—with increased irritability, working longer hours, substance use, risk-taking behaviours, or withdrawal from family relationships.
At Know Your Mind Consulting, we recognise that supporting the whole family system is crucial for recovery. We offer therapy for all postpartum individuals, regardless of gender or biological relationship to the child.
Evidence-Based Therapies We Offer
When you're struggling with mood disorders like perinatal depression, knowing that effective treatments exist can provide hope. At Know Your Mind Consulting in Tunbridge Wells, our team of HCPC registered psychologists specialise in several evidence-based approaches that have proven effective for perinatal mental health:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
This practical approach, often called talk therapy, helps you identify thought patterns that might be keeping you stuck—like "I'm failing as a parent" or "I should be enjoying every moment." Together, we'll examine these thoughts and develop more balanced perspectives that better reflect reality.
Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT)
If you're constantly berating yourself for not being "good enough," CFT teaches you to respond to yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a friend or your own child. This shift from self-judgment to self-compassion can be truly transformative during this vulnerable time.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Rather than trying to eliminate difficult emotions (which is often impossible during the upheaval of new parenthood), ACT helps you make room for challenging feelings while still moving toward what matters to you. We'll help you identify your values as a parent and find ways to engage in meaningful activities with your baby, even on tough days.
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Particularly powerful for perinatal depression connected to trauma, EMDR can help your brain process difficult experiences—whether from a traumatic birth, pregnancy complications, or previous traumatic events—so they no longer carry the same emotional impact.
EMDR Intensives
For those who would benefit from concentrated treatment, we offer EMDR intensives—longer, more frequent sessions over a shorter period that can accelerate healing from trauma and provide relief more quickly than traditional weekly therapy.
What makes our approach at Know Your Mind different is our commitment to personalisation. During your initial assessment, we'll take time to understand your unique situation, personal or family history, and needs before recommending the approach (or combination of approaches) best suited to your circumstances.

Specialised Support for Pregnancy and Parenthood Challenges
At Know Your Mind Consulting, we offer specialised mental health services for various perinatal challenges, including:
Hyperemesis Gravidarum and Severe Pregnancy Sickness
Our mental health professionals understand the profound physical and emotional toll of severe pregnancy sickness, including hyperemesis gravidarum. We provide psychological support to help manage the emotional impact of this challenging condition.
Pre- and Post-natal Depression
Whether you're experiencing depression during pregnancy or postnatal depression after giving birth, our team offers evidence-based therapies to help you navigate this difficult time and regain a sense of well-being.
Birth Trauma Recovery
For parents who experienced traumatic events during birth, our EMDR specialists can help you process these experiences and reduce their emotional impact, allowing you to move forward from trauma.
Anxiety Related to Pregnancy and Parenthood
From generalised worry to specific fears about childbirth or your baby's wellbeing, we offer effective strategies to manage anxiety and build confidence in your parenting journey.
Parenting Support
Adapting to parenthood brings unique challenges. Our psychologists provide practical guidance and emotional support as you navigate this major life transition.
Grief and Baby Loss
The grief of pregnancy or baby loss can be profound and complex. Our compassionate team offers specialised support to help you process your grief and find a way forward while honouring your loss.
Support Groups and Community Resources
While professional therapy forms a cornerstone of perinatal depression help, connecting with others who understand your journey can be equally healing. The power of support groups shouldn't be underestimated—they reduce isolation and provide both practical advice and emotional validation when you need it most.
In the Tunbridge Wells area, you'll find several supportive communities waiting to welcome you. The NHS Kent and Medway Perinatal Mental Health Service offers specialised support groups where you can meet other parents navigating similar challenges. Local children's centres host warm, welcoming groups that provide a gentle entry point for making connections.
Your health visitor can be an excellent guide to these local resources—they often know which support groups might be the best fit for your specific situation.
Support for the Transition Back to Work
Returning to work after having a baby brings unique challenges, especially when managing perinatal depression. At Know Your Mind Consulting, our mental health professionals understand these complexities and offer workplace wellbeing consultancy specifically designed for working parents.
We can help you:
Navigate conversations with employers about reasonable accommodations
Develop practical strategies for balancing professional responsibilities with parenting
Manage anxiety around separation from your baby
Set realistic expectations and boundaries that protect your mental health
Process conflicting emotions about your return to work
Many parents benefit from our resilience training and mental health workshops, which provide practical tools for managing stress and building psychological flexibility during this transition.
Understanding Risk Factors for Perinatal Depression
Research suggests that several factors can increase your vulnerability to perinatal mood disorders, including:
Personal or family history of depression or other psychiatric disorders
Previous experience with perinatal depression
Limited social support
Relationship difficulties
Financial stress
Sleep deprivation
Birth complications
Past trauma
Thyroid imbalances
History of bipolar disorder or other mood disorders
Women with these risk factors may benefit from preventive services. The U.S. Preventive Services Task Force recommends early screening and intervention for those at increased risk. At Know Your Mind Consulting in Tunbridge Wells, we consider all these factors when creating your personalised treatment plan.
Creating a Personal Wellbeing Plan
A personalised wellbeing plan can be an invaluable tool for managing perinatal depression and preventing crises. At Know Your Mind Consulting, our mental health professionals often work with clients to develop these plans as part of therapy.
Your plan might include:
Identifying your personal warning signs that indicate your mental health might be deteriorating
Documenting specific coping strategies that help you feel better
Listing your social support network and what type of help each person can provide
Including contact information for all relevant health care providers
Creating a detailed crisis plan outlining specific steps to take if you experience thoughts of harming yourself or feel unable to care for your baby safely
Having this plan written down and shared with trusted supporters means you don't have to make complex decisions during difficult moments—you simply follow the steps you've thoughtfully prepared in advance.
Treatment Options for Perinatal Depression
Therapy Approaches
Talk therapy is often the first-line treatment for perinatal depression. Through regular sessions with a mental health professional, you'll learn strategies to manage symptoms and address underlying issues contributing to your depression.
Additional Therapeutic Support
For some women with severe depression, especially those with a history of psychiatric disorders, a comprehensive treatment approach may be recommended. This often involves a combination of different therapeutic modalities tailored to your specific needs.
Untreated depression during pregnancy and the postpartum period can have significant negative effects on both mother and baby. Early intervention with appropriate therapeutic support can help prevent these negative outcomes and promote recovery.
These treatment decisions should always be made in consultation with qualified mental health professionals who can help you understand the latest research and options available.

Our Approach to Care
At Know Your Mind Consulting, we believe in providing holistic, personalised care that acknowledges the unique challenges of the peripartum period. Our approach is:
Evidence-Based
We use therapeutic methods proven effective through rigorous research, adapted to meet your individual needs.
Compassionate
We create a non-judgmental space where you can explore difficult feelings without shame.
Collaborative
We work together as a team, respecting your expertise about your own life and experiences.
Strengths-Focused
While addressing challenges, we also help you identify and build upon your existing strengths and resilience.
Family-Centred
We recognise that supporting you means considering the whole family system and how it functions.
Our Team
Know Your Mind Consulting brings together a team of HCPC registered clinical psychologists with specialised training and experience in perinatal mental health. Our group practice approach means we can match you with the mental health professional whose expertise best fits your needs.
All our psychologists are trained in multiple therapeutic modalities, allowing us to adapt our approach to what works best for you rather than applying a one-size-fits-all model.
Where We Work
Located in Tunbridge Wells, our practice serves parents throughout West Kent, including Sevenoaks, Maidstone, Tonbridge, and Crowborough. We offer both in-person and online therapy options to accommodate your schedule and comfort.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does perinatal depression last with treatment?
With appropriate treatment, most women experience significant improvement within 3-6 months. Research shows approximately 50% of women with peripartum depression recover within three months of starting treatment, while 75-80% see substantial improvement within six months.
At Know Your Mind Consulting, we typically see meaningful progress within 8-12 therapy sessions, though some parents benefit from longer-term support, particularly those with complex trauma histories or additional challenges.
Recovery rarely follows a straight line—most parents experience ups and downs along the way. The combined support of therapy, lifestyle changes, and support groups provides the strongest foundation for lasting recovery.
Are there preventive steps if I'm at high risk?
If you have risk factors for perinatal depression—such as a personal or family history of depression, previous perinatal mood disorders, or limited social support—taking proactive steps can significantly reduce your chances of developing severe symptoms.
Consider:
Discussing your mental health history openly with your healthcare provider
Engaging in preventive services like therapy to develop coping strategies before challenges arise
Establishing a robust support network
Creating a realistic postpartum plan that includes prioritising rest, arranging practical support, and maintaining self-care
Attending regular prenatal appointments to discuss any emerging mental health concerns
Prioritising sleep, nutrition, and physical activity (if medically approved)
Practising mindfulness or other stress management techniques
Connecting with other expectant parents to reduce isolation
At our Tunbridge Wells practice, we specialise in preventive therapy for those at high risk, helping you develop personalised strategies that work with your unique circumstances.
Can partners receive therapy too?
Absolutely. At Know Your Mind Consulting, our group practice provides therapy for all parents, regardless of gender or biological relationship to the child. We recognise that the transition to parenthood affects everyone in the family system, and supporting partners benefits both their individual wellbeing and the family as a whole.
Our HCPC registered psychologists offer individual therapy for new fathers and partners experiencing their own mental health challenges, as well as sessions focused on improving communication and mutual support within couples.
Taking the First Step
Seeking perinatal depression help isn't admitting defeat—it's taking a courageous first step toward recovery. The darkness of perinatal depression can feel all-consuming, but it doesn't define your parenting journey or your relationship with your child.
At Know Your Mind Consulting, we provide a safe, non-judgmental space to process your experiences and develop strategies for moving forward. Whether you're experiencing depression during pregnancy, postpartum depression, anxiety, birth trauma, or struggling with the transition to parenthood, our team is here to support you.
For parents in Tunbridge Wells and surrounding areas including Sevenoaks, Maidstone, Tonbridge, and Crowborough, our practice provides local, accessible support from specialists who understand both the universal challenges of perinatal mental health and the specific resources available in our community.
To learn more about how we can support you during this important life transition, please reach out to arrange an initial consultation. We accept AXA and BUPA insurance, and our team will be happy to discuss scheduling and other practical details.
Remember: You are not alone. You are not to blame. With proper treatment, you will feel better.
According to clinical guidelines, perinatal depression is a form of major depressive disorder that occurs during pregnancy or within four weeks of giving birth, though many health care providers recognise symptoms that appear within the first year. With appropriate mental health support and treatment, women can successfully manage this condition and thrive in their new role as parents.
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